Episode 103 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's "Waking Up to Narcissism" podcast. If you say “it” the right way, will the narcissist ever get “it” whatever “it” is? Tony introduces his 'Five Foolproof Formulas for Navigating Narcissistic Nonsense,' which helps maintain emotional stability and a sense of self in challenging relationships. Tony also critically analyzes a passage from the book 'Rethinking Narcissism' by Dr. Craig Malkin, where he finds a logical inconsistency that might give false hope to 'pathologically kind persons' who constantly try to induce 'aha moments' in their narcissistic partners. He also highlights the concept of differentiation of self and its importance in maintaining one’s emotional stability and sense of self in the face of challenging dynamics in relationships with narcissistic individuals.
00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:45 Understanding the Impact of Stress on Physical Health
02:36 Upcoming Topics and Listener Engagement
05:23 Exploring the Concept of Narcissism
06:09 Dissecting a Book Passage on Narcissism
08:47 The Five Foolproof Formulas for Navigating Narcissistic Nonsense
15:52 Understanding Healthy Ego and Pathological Defensive Narcissism
17:07 Analyzing a Book on Narcissism
22:58 Contradictions in Narcissism Advice
24:53 Understanding the Power of Self-Blame
25:30 The Pathologically Kind Person and Their Burden of Responsibility
26:54 The Struggle for Control in Relationships
28:16 Personal Story: The Impact of Powerlessness
34:42 The Importance of Differentiation in Relationships
36:51 The Dangers of Emotional Inconsistency
40:06 The Reality of Expressing Feelings to a Narcissist
47:11 The Role of Differentiation in Dealing with Narcissists
54:24 Conclusion: Knowing When to Engage and When to Step Back
