Episode 118 of the "Waking Up to Narcissism" podcast. Tony Overbay, LMFT, delivers an emergency bonus episode addressing a heartfelt listener email. The episode discusses cognitive dissonance, gaslighting, emotional abuse, scapegoating, and trauma bonding often experienced in relationships with narcissists. Tony breaks down the listener's experiences, offering insight into their struggles, including emotional manipulations and prolonged emotional trauma. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing these abusive patterns, seeking help from therapists specializing in narcissistic abuse, and prioritizing self-care and self-compassion. The episode revisits key concepts like whole object relations, object constancy, and cognitive dissonance, encouraging listeners to strive for emotional intelligence and balanced relationships.
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
00:21 Emergency Bonus Episode Announcement
01:14 Reading and Analyzing a Listener's Email
04:25 Understanding Gaslighting and Emotional Abuse
12:08 Cognitive Dissonance in Relationships
16:57 Whole Object Relations and Object Constancy
21:10 Understanding Cognitive Dissonance
21:59 Balancing Good and Bad in Relationships
23:11 Empowerment Through Clarity
24:36 Navigating Emotional Trauma
25:49 The Narcissist's Manipulative Tactics
28:20 Therapy and Emotional Manipulation
31:21 Breaking Free from Trauma Bonds
33:58 Self-Reflection and Sanity
39:03 Seeking Help and Moving Forward
If you are interested in joining Tony's private Facebook group for women in narcissistic or emotionally immature relationships of any type, please reach out to him at contact@tonyoverbay.com or through the form on the website, https://www.tonyoverbay.com
If you are a man interested in joining Tony's "Emotional Architects" group to learn how to better navigate your relationship with a narcissistic or emotionally immature partner or learn how to become more emotionally mature yourself, please reach out to Tony at contact@tonyoverbay.com or through the form on the website, https://www.tonyoverbay.com
