Try Not To Think About A Green Polar Bear! You Did, Didn't You!? Psychological Reactance Explained

Tony Overbay, LMFT and host of The Virtual Couch Podcast explains why even our own brains can't be told what to do. The term "psychological reactance" is the instant negative reaction we all have when being told what to do. Psychologists believe that it is innate within us, that we have this reactance to help us avoid being dominated by an alpha male/female or a corrupt society. But, reactance can also come into play in our own brains. Reactance explains why thought suppression doesn't work. When we tell ourselves not to think of something (the green polar bear in this instance) our own brains exhibit this reactance principal...in other words, our brains will say "I'll think whatever the heck I want!" Tony explains what to do with those pesky thoughts that we can't seem to avoid or get rid of.
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