Videos

May 29, 2019

Therapy Session 1, Sitting in My Office to Talk Pornography (For Addicts, Spouses, and Parents)

Episode 131 of The Virtual Couch Podcast, with Tony Overbay, LMFT. I wanted to go a bit off-script in this 2-part episode to talk about what it would look like if you were coming to see me to talk about pornography addiction. Is it an addiction? Why is it a…

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May 21, 2019

Virtual Couch 129 Do I NEED My Partner For My Own Happiness? Exploring Dr. Sue Johnson's Love Sense

One of the popular messages shared by both therapists and media alike is that we are supposed to be in complete control of our own emotions before, or even IF we then turn to others and that it is necessary to love yourself first and only THEN will someone else…

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May 15, 2019

Tony Overbay interviews Dr. Adam Harcourt on Brain Fog, Migraines, TBI, Concussions and More

Tony Overbay LMFT, interviews Dr. Adam Harcourt, FACFN, FABVR, DACNB on episode 128 of The Virtual Couch podcast. Why are some days just harder to get started than others? Do you sometimes feel like your brain is enveloped in a fog? Have you ever wondered where your migraines come from?…

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May 13, 2019

Tony Reacts to “Why Do People Lie to Their Therapists” plus Habit Change, Narcissism, Gaslighting

If you have access to anyone under the age of 25 in your life, ask them about “reaction videos” and then watch their own reactions! Whether you love watching old people react to rap videos, or your favorite actor or musician react to people watching them perform, sites like YouTube…

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April 23, 2019

Navigating a Faith Journey/Crisis, Fowler's Stages of Faith, Truth, Beauty Goodness

Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast Episode 125. For many, a faith community, or religious congregation, is a safe place to return regularly to be spiritually fed before heading back to an often chaotic world. But what happens when that previously “safe” community begins to feel like a place…

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April 16, 2019

Ep124 Happy Wife, Happy Life is Evidence Based! Emotionally Intelligent Husband Key to Better Marria

Have you ever heard the phrase “Happy Wife, Happy Life?” As cliched as it sounds, there may actually be some data to back it up. A study published in the Los Angeles Times in the late ’90s, that has since been built upon, shares that the key to a strong…

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April 9, 2019

Julie Lee Host of I See You Podcast Talks About Her Journey Through Anxiety and Depression

Virtual Couch podcast episode 123. Tony Overbay, LMFT, interviews Julie Lee, Host of the "I See You" podcast and author of the children's book Broccolipunzle: A Fractured Fairytale, talks about her journey through anxiety and depression. Julie grew up in a family of six children, with a father who battled…

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April 1, 2019

Gaslighting Examples, Does A Gaslighter Know They Are Doing It?

Gaslighting is a form of control, which comes from the 1938 play Gas Light (later made into a film, starring Ingrid Bergman). The victims of gaslighting often bring things up to a partner that they believe to be true, only to end a conversation with this partner doubting their own…

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March 28, 2019

Leukemia & Lymphoma Society's (LLS) Man of the Year Candidate Emanuel Petrisor

Tony Overbay, LMFT interviews Emanuel Petrisor on the Virtual Couch Podcast episode 119. Emanuel Petrisor has been an ICU nurse for almost 20 years. His family immigrated from Romania when he was 5, and Emanuel discovered a love for history after coming to America. He initially went to school to…

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March 28, 2019

Leukemia & Lymphoma Society's (LLS) Man of the Year Candidate Emanuel Petrisor on Career Change...

Emanuel Petrisor has been an ICU nurse for almost 20 years. His family immigrated from Romania when he was 5, and Emanuel discovered a love for history after coming to America. He initially went to school to become a teacher, but when he was 18, his brother Benjamin was diagnosed…

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March 25, 2019

Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) with Christine Hammond, LMHC

Tony Overbay, LMFT, interviews Christine Hammond, LMHC, on the Virtual Couch Podcast to discuss borderline personality disorder (BPD). They discuss what a personality disorder is, the difference between narcissism and borderline personality disorder, and what the diagnostic criteria are for borderline personality disorder. They also discuss how creativity can often…

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March 24, 2019

Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Tony Overbay interviews Christine Hammond, LMHC

Tony Overbay, LMFT, interviews Christine Hammond, LMHC, on the Virtual Couch Podcast to discuss borderline personality disorder (BPD). They discuss what a personality disorder is, the difference between narcissism and borderline personality disorder, and what the diagnostic criteria are for borderline personality disorder. They also discuss how creativity can often…

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March 22, 2019

Sexuality Counselor Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on Struggling to Find Your Partner Desirable and...

Sexuality and Relationship Counselor Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife makes her 2nd appearance on the podcast to talk about what to do if you no longer find your partner physically attractive, as well as how to communicate in a relationship where one partner has a high desire for intimacy and one has…

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March 21, 2019

Tony Overbay interviews Amy Twiggs on Confidence, Sports Performance and Parenting Today's Athletes

Amy Twiggs joins Tony Overbay, LMFT on his Virtual Couch podcast to discuss how to build confidence as an athlete, as well as what parents, and coaches, need to know in order to get the most from an athlete. Amy is a sports performance coach who works with athletes, from…

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March 18, 2019

What is Your Attachment Style? Understanding Attachment Patterns Can Significantly Impact Your...

The way we interact with our current partners, children, or even work colleagues has a lot to do with how we attached to our primary caregivers as children. And understanding these “attachment styles” can ultimately lead to better relationships with those we care about. Are you anxious-preoccupied, having a negative…

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March 14, 2019

Developing Teen Girl Confidence/Healthy Social Media Skills w/Kim Partridge RN, Life Coach...

Kim Partridge, aka “Coach Kimmie” has been a registered nurse for 25 years and she doubles as a life coach dedicated to helping girls with teenage anxiety, and confidence issues. Tony and Kim talk about the book "Enough As She Is" by Rachel Simmons and about how to navigate social…

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March 11, 2019

Why Do I Keep Picking Bad Partners? Is My "Picker" Broken? Freud's Repetition Compulsion

Worried that your "picker" is broken after going through a divorce or a bad break up? Is your fear of another relationship failure causing you to want to give up on finding the relationship that you have always dreamed of? Tony breaks down Freud's "repetition compulsion" and how your parents…

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March 7, 2019

The Bishop's Strongest Tools to Help Addicts - Tony Interviewed on LeadingSaints.org

HEADS UP! ATTENTION! Please listen to this episode if you or ANYONE in your life has struggled with addiction. This episode contains an interview Tony did primarily targeted for LDS bishops (congregational leaders of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints) but he addresses how shame fuels addictions of…

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March 4, 2019

8 Types of Narcissism, More Gaslighting and Send Me Examples!

The more the word “narcissist” gets thrown around, the more chances there are to use the term incorrectly. Tony gives the diagnostic criteria for NPD and then discusses sociology PhD Kristen Milstead’s article “8 Types of Narcissists.” What is covert vs. overt narcissism, why is a malignant narcissist the most…

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March 1, 2019

Tony Overbay Interviews Life Coach Kim Partridge on Enough As She Is by Rachel Simmons

Tony Overbay, LMFT interview Kim "Coach Kimmie" Partridge, R.N. on The Virtual Couch podcast. Coach Kimmie, a registered nurse for 25 years and life coach, helps girls with teenage anxiety, and confidence issues, learn to "hush their inner critic and know that confidence is the ability to feel all of…

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Feb. 28, 2019

BONUS Emotional Baseline, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) Tony Overbay on Monica...

Tony appears on Monica Packer's "About Progress" podcast. Monica titled the episode, "How to Stop Hating Yourself with Tony Overbay." Her description says: Mindset is everything. So what do you do if the only way you learned how to change in the past was by hating yourself into it? Shifting…

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Feb. 25, 2019

Ep110 Navigating a Break Up, With Balloons and Party Hats if Needed

Navigating a break up can be incredibly difficult, leaving you feeling blindsided, emotionally triggered by every smell, sound, and place that you go. And what about the pain? You feel like your heart is literally breaking! Did you know that brain scans show that a breakup lights up the same…

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Feb. 21, 2019

Ep109 Brooke Romney on Parenting, "Repeat After Me, My Child is Not Perfect and Neither is Yours"

Brooke Romney is a writer, speaker, and a mother of 4 very active boys. A couple of years ago she wrote an article called “Repeat After Me, My Child is Not Perfect and Neither is Yours” which struck a chord with parents everywhere. She thought if she “mothered hard enough”…

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Feb. 18, 2019

Ep108 What is the “Love/Cuddle Hormone?” And Can Painting or Playing Board Games Save Your...

Can playing board games revive your marriage, or find you a partner? Why will men suddenly be carrying paintbrushes around in their pockets when trying to meet women? Tony dissects a recent Baylor University study that says “Couples Creating Art or Playing Board Games Release ‘Love Hormone’ - but Men…

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