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I've been a therapist for over 15 years, I've worked with thousands of individuals and over a thousand couples, and what I'm going to share with you today has been an absolute game-changer for me in my personal life, as well as in my practice. Let's talk about abandonment and…

Episode 236 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast. With the New Year soon approaching, it’s time to talk habits! Inevitably millions of people will start to look at creating new habits, and breaking old ones and guest Abby Green has done all the research on habit formation so…

Episode 235 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast "When You Feel Like You’re Trying More Than Your Spouse w/Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife (Plus When Narcissistic Traits Show Up in Marriage)" Relationship and sexuality expert Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-fife (http://finlayson-fife.com) returns for her 3rd time to the Virtual Couch! In today’s…

Episode 233 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast. For most of us, when we think of our marital relationships our minds don’t immediately go to the second law of thermodynamics, or entropy, but according to some marriage researchers, there is definitely a correlation. According to Stephen F. Duncan,…

Episode 230 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - What if your thoughts, even ones that you previously considered to be negative, harmful, unproductive, or even toxic, when put into context weren’t the monsters that you have made them out to be? Welcome to the world of Functional…

We ALL have thoughts going through our minds consistently throughout the day. Some of those thoughts are funny, some are scary, some are full of hope, and others are completely inappropriate for the time and place (ever just wanted to start giggling at a completely somber event?). So why do…

Virtual Couch Episode 227 Hosted By Tony Overbay, LMFT - How can a couple rebuild trust in a marriage? Is gaslighting really as big of a problem as people make it out to be...come on, really? (See what I did there...I was gaslighting!!). And what if I honestly, truly, at…

Virtual Couch Podcast Episode 228 Hosted by Tony Overbay, LMFT - Do you always feel like you’re never going to get what you want? Do you continuously find yourself thinking, “I should have done that differently?” (Knowing that NOBODY likes to be “should on?”). Or have you ever found yourself…

Episode 221 of The Virtual Couch Podcast, hosted by Tony Overbay, LMFT. Tony tackles the topic of pornography today in a completely strength-based, hold-the-shame, become the person you always wanted to be way. He addresses the age-old question of whether or not pornography addiction is even a diagnosable condition...and better…

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Intro including a discussion about appearing on a national radio show to talk about pornography addiction runs up to 6:55 and then Tony gets to the article/topic about narcissistic abuse and the impact on the brain. Episode 221 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - It’s true that…

Tony Overbay, LMFT, and host of The Virtual Couch Podcast (http://tonyoverbay.com) describes Functional Contextualism from Russ Harris' book ACT Made Simple. Imagine if we started the narrative with "you're not broken, you're human" instead of the ever-popular refrain of needing to fix your broken, problematic thinking? Functional Contextualism (FC) is…

Intro from 0:00 to 4:09 At 4:09 Tony begins talking about Richard Jerome's article. Tony Overbay LMFT's Virtual Couch Podcast Episode 220 - It's time to break some old habits and create some new ones...the good kind! Tony covers Richard Jerome's Realsimple.com article "Yes, You Can Kick That Bad Habit!"…

Episode 219 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Tony covers items 11 through 14 of his ever-growing list of “Everything I Know,” aka all of the things he’s learned from the therapist’s chair. In today’s episode he covers: If you’re going to say yes to someone, then…

Tony Overbay, LMFT, and host of The Virtual Couch Podcast discusses the difficulties in breaking free from a narcissist trauma bond. One of the biggest challenges in working with people who are trying to break free from the trauma bone or emotional grip of a narcissist is the fact that…

Tony Overbay, LMFT and host of The Virtual Couch Podcast explains why even our own brains can't be told what to do. The term "psychological reactance" is the instant negative reaction we all have when being told what to do. Psychologists believe that it is innate within us, that we…

Episode 218 to Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Tony welcomes Julie Lee, author of “I See You” back to The Virtual Couch. Julie talks about the surprising series of events that led to the writing of her book, “I See You” and discussed the challenges of completing…

Episode 216 of Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Tony covers 7 through 10 of his ever-growing list of “Everything I Know,” aka all of the things he’s learned from his therapist’s chair. In today’s episode he covers: Let’s assume that people don’t wake up and think “What…

I was.asked to answer questions specific to mental health for the young women of the Citrus Heights Stake. I am extremely grateful for the opportunity to share some of the knowledge that I have learned in my 15 years as a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT). I have podcasts…

Tony covers items 1 through 6 of his ever-growing list of “Everything I Know,” aka all of the things he’s learned from his therapist’s chair. In today’s episode he covers: What if you’re NOT broken (ACT vs CBT), You’re the only version of YOU so far on the Earth (at…

Tony Overbay's The Virtual Couch Podcast Episode 214 - Don’t you know that breaking up, is, hard to do? Hopefully, you were singing that to the tune of the Neal Sedaka hit of the same name that was first released in 1960? And Sedaka wasn’t the first to use the…

Episode 213 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - What do you say when somebody turns to you in their time of need? It may sound simple, but in reality, there’s a chance that your thoughts and phrases of support may leave someone feeling unheard and even more…

Episode 212 of Tony Overbay, LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast - Tony reviews the life-changing book The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. https://amzn.to/2VUcMEd “Trauma is a fact of life…one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three…

Tony Overbay LMFT's The Virtual Couch Podcast Episode 211 - Anger, sadness, frustration, fear, loneliness…any one of these emotions can cause one to feel off their game to the point that they may start singing the familiar, yet destructive “what’s wrong with me?” tune. Even more profound is the old…